Play Your Position!

Play Your Position! 

Yup! I am going there! I was originally inspired recently by "Weinergate"! I have been biting my tongue to say the least. I had become slightly reserved on the whole issue, when I heard a woman phone the local radio station to "air out" her so called "boyfriend". It appears that she had been dealing with this guy for over ten months. He had taken the "road" of "not being happy at home" (yeah-yeah). Somehow she made mention of blowing the lid off of the relationship, when he decided to tell his side of the story first. By the time the story was told, the "side piece" was now labeled as a stalker. 

Now we can all be critical of the "side piece" however, we all know someone that fits that bill! You know your role when you enter any relationship. You also know who you are dealing with by the end of the first month. Lets be clear, I am not talking about "Catfish"; I'm talking about someone that you get to see physically. You know when you get two hours after work for drinks or walks in the park what it is. You know when your hitting the "short stay" motels what it is. 

You can attempt to stake a claim on this person, but; you can't get mad when they don't take the bait! You can attempt to "handcuff" that person and rope them into a steady relationship but is that really what they want? Understand that a player is going to be a player and there is nothing you or anybody else is going to do that will convince him/her that you are "the one". As a matter of fact, due to the fact that you are enabling this person to carry on two lives, chances are this person has NO value for you! You are not known by your name - your new name is "Wednesday @ 6pm". That's when you are seen. If you do your homework you will see that chances are, you are not the only one! There may be others at work, church, school, on the block, or even at the club. You are happy with your time slot and you better be or else you get cut off! 

So what happens when you start to be overcome by emotions that you let in? You start to get angry! You start to get vindictive and plot on a way to get this person back in your life, or get back at this person. What we have here is someone that "did not play their position". You have to realize that whatever values you may have had when everything started you have to go back to. If you find that this relationship is not turning out the way you wanted you have to turn and walk away! You just have to know when to hand in your cards and fold. Not everyone is able to play the game. Many relationship experts will tell you, never get into a relationship with someone while they are in a relationship. True words! Allow that person to walk away first, then make yourself available to him/her. If you choose to get involved before that point, know that you have a position to play and you cannot allow yourself to get caught up emotionally. 

With that being said I will ask, are you able to conduct a relationship without emotions involved as a side piece? Can you get involved without the need to destroy "the happy home"? This discussion is not for the weak at heart, get in where you fit in. If you was the "side piece" before, I want to hear from you. If you was the main piece and tolerated this I want to hear from you! This is open dialogue people - lets talk about it! 

COULD THIS BE YOUR REASON?

Arguing about money could spell disaster for your marriage:

Arguments over money is the top predictor of separations in couples

Arguments are more intense, last longer, and take more time to get over

Couples also use harsher language with each other

Predicts divorce better than rows over sex, children and in-laws

When it comes to relationships, money really does matter according to new research that has found that rows about money are the biggest single predictor of divorce.
The study looked at 4,500 couples over several years and found that stress over finances topped the list of predictors of separation for both men and women.
Couples who argue about money may are seen as more likely to get a divorce than those who row over other matters including sex, children and the in-laws.

They say it's the root of all evil! What does money say about your relationship? How much of a value does it hold in your household?

Financial argument were also found to be longer in length, and couples tend to use harsher language during them.

 

Arguments over money predict later divorce for both men and women.

This was true regardless of a couples income or debt level, and the arguments can date back years, sometimes to before a couple was even married.
Sonya Britt, assistant professor of family studies and human services at Kansas State University says
‘You can measure people's money arguments when they are very first married.
‘It doesn't matter how long ago it was, but when they were first together and already arguing about money, there is a good chance they are going to have poor relationship satisfaction.’
The longer these disagreements go on, the lower the relationship satisfaction will be, resulting for some couples in divorce.
Chartered Psychologist Kim Stephenson says: 'We know that the rate of 'financial infidelity' (lying, concealment, dishonesty generally about money) is on the increase in both the UK and US, based on figures since the financial crisis in 2008.
It's also been true for some time that financial issues are a major source of marital discord, for example, financial concerns are stated as the number one reason for couples to consult Relate.’


 

If You Don't Tell....

Trey Songz has come a long way in this business. The ladies love Trey...

With that being said, this video was posted on Worldstarhiphop and had me thinking. Ladies, you are the ladie on the video, your touched and caressed and invited backstage... Question do you follow through? Do you eventually tell your significant other?

Fella's let a brother know, where is the line drawn. Where do you draw the line and say, its okay she is still coming home to me.

Just curious... "imjussayin"...

Hold Your Head- You've Touched Many Lives...

We sometimes cannot control our emotions, and often regret the actions taken in order to prove a point. With that being said I say, Hold your Head. You have "infected" us all in some way, shape or form. You came home from prison and made an impact that gave a lot of brothers hope and will continue to give a lot of brothers hope.

I had the pleasure of meeting this brother and speaking with him @ length. No, not in an interview setting, just a casual setting as I drove the brother around then on to the studio. One of the most humble brothers you would ever want to meet. So to Lyfe Jennings, I say hold on brother, "We got you". Your career is here for you when you get home. Good music and lyrics never die.

Definitely a message in your music. Check the message in the video!

Nuff Said!