Yup! I am going there! I was originally inspired recently by "Weinergate"! I have been biting my tongue to say the least. I had become slightly reserved on the whole issue, when I heard a woman phone the local radio station to "air out" her so called "boyfriend". It appears that she had been dealing with this guy for over ten months. He had taken the "road" of "not being happy at home" (yeah-yeah). Somehow she made mention of blowing the lid off of the relationship, when he decided to tell his side of the story first. By the time the story was told, the "side piece" was now labeled as a stalker.
Now we can all be critical of the "side piece" however, we all know someone that fits that bill! You know your role when you enter any relationship. You also know who you are dealing with by the end of the first month. Lets be clear, I am not talking about "Catfish"; I'm talking about someone that you get to see physically. You know when you get two hours after work for drinks or walks in the park what it is. You know when your hitting the "short stay" motels what it is.
You can attempt to stake a claim on this person, but; you can't get mad when they don't take the bait! You can attempt to "handcuff" that person and rope them into a steady relationship but is that really what they want? Understand that a player is going to be a player and there is nothing you or anybody else is going to do that will convince him/her that you are "the one". As a matter of fact, due to the fact that you are enabling this person to carry on two lives, chances are this person has NO value for you! You are not known by your name - your new name is "Wednesday @ 6pm". That's when you are seen. If you do your homework you will see that chances are, you are not the only one! There may be others at work, church, school, on the block, or even at the club. You are happy with your time slot and you better be or else you get cut off!
So what happens when you start to be overcome by emotions that you let in? You start to get angry! You start to get vindictive and plot on a way to get this person back in your life, or get back at this person. What we have here is someone that "did not play their position". You have to realize that whatever values you may have had when everything started you have to go back to. If you find that this relationship is not turning out the way you wanted you have to turn and walk away! You just have to know when to hand in your cards and fold. Not everyone is able to play the game. Many relationship experts will tell you, never get into a relationship with someone while they are in a relationship. True words! Allow that person to walk away first, then make yourself available to him/her. If you choose to get involved before that point, know that you have a position to play and you cannot allow yourself to get caught up emotionally.
With that being said I will ask, are you able to conduct a relationship without emotions involved as a side piece? Can you get involved without the need to destroy "the happy home"? This discussion is not for the weak at heart, get in where you fit in. If you was the "side piece" before, I want to hear from you. If you was the main piece and tolerated this I want to hear from you! This is open dialogue people - lets talk about it!
