As I read through this article posted on MSN, I could not help but think, this could have some validity. However this would go for males and females, not just GUYS!
Ladies, some of you know - these tips apply to your'll as well...
I will respond as the interaction goes on....
His Dating Diary: 9 Signs Your Guy Is Cheating
Are you suspicious that your significant other is playing the field? Here, one man shares 9 relationship red flags that may signal some extracurricular irregularities.
(By Rich Santos/Marie Claire)
When you get suspicious that your significant other is cheating, be careful not to appear to be paranoid. You have to walk a fine line — you don't want to make false accusations.
So, while I'm sharing this list of cheating red flags, I concede that it's a tricky situation. It's hard to be sure if someone's cheating, but protect yourself: Be vigilant, and pay attention to your mind and spirit within the relationship. But, at the same time, be careful not to let anxiety lead the way because unnecessary paranoia will just drive your lover away. Here are some red flags that may signal that your significant other is cheating:
1. Less SexUnless he's Superman, he can only have so much sex. So, if he's getting it from another source, you might notice. Whether it's another woman or a porn addiction — even if he's not cheating — a decrease in sex signals serious issues in the relationship.
2. Jumpy Cell Phone HabitsIn a perfect world, we'd be open about sharing our correspondence with our significant others. Most of the time, we trust that we don't have to worry about who is texting or calling them. But, if you notice that he is getting protective and/or nervous when he gets calls or texts, it may be cause for alarm.
3. Gushing or Talking About Someone SuddenlyYou know that exhilarating feeling you get when you meet someone new and exciting? You want to tell the world about him. One of my exes began talking about a guy a lot near the end of our relationship — he just always seemed to be at her social gatherings that I didn't happen to attend. Sure enough, after she dumped me, she began dating him.
4. DisconnectingEven though relationships ebb and flow naturally, if you're sensing that he's drawing away from you, then there may be someone else. Emotional disconnection should be investigated regardless of whether it's caused by cheating. There's a problem if he's not laughing or seeming as passionate as usual. It's hard to spread love/passion between two people, so the person who used to have it will feel it slipping away if it's being given to someone else.
5. He's Pulling "Houdinis"If he's disappearing, traveling, or unavailable to the point where you are starting to wonder, then he could be cheating. Also, these times tend to take on a pattern because it's tough to synch up schedules, especially in secret.
6. His Friends Are Acting StrangeHis friends will certainly remain loyal to him in most cases. They will not let you know what's going on, but they will definitely be racked with guilt, and their behavior may change slightly when they are around you while protecting his secret.
7. He's Being Caught in Lies About Other ThingsIf you catch him in a lie, your trust will naturally be damaged. Don't hold a grudge — forgiveness is a good thing. You can forgive, but don't forget. If he consistently breaches your trust, it's establishing a pattern of behavior that leads to cheating. Do yourself a favor: If he keeps lying, whether these lies are big or small, get out while you can and don't let him talk his way back in.
8. Been There, Done ThatI always say: "Once a cheater, always a cheater." If he's done it before, he's definitely capable of doing it again. It has nothing to do with you, which is why you can't say that he cheated on his previous lover because she didn't keep him happy. Cheating is a self-serving act in which the cheater doesn't take his significant other into consideration. If someone is upfront with you that he's made mistakes in the past, maybe give them a chance —— but make it a long probationary period before you let your guard down.
9. Your Gut Tells You SoDon't ignore your sixth sense. People are gifted at sensing when something doesn't feel right. Whether there are red flags in your relationship that are clueing you in or not, if something feels off, don't ignore this feeling. Usually that suspicion is correct, and something intangible may have led to you figuring it all out.
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2 comments:
Pretty good job on the list, Curtis. Unfortunately, I recognized a few of those signs. Of course, I sensed them but could not identify them at the time. Nevertheless, you are correct; we need to pay attention to our instincts.
I do not necessarily feel that it makes the guy a cheater because sometimes things in our lives can cause us to pull away and other times it can be just so much going on you think that you are helping the other person by falling back a little.
You can tell when your man is cheating by the way he looks at you, his scents, his talk (men tend to speak like the woman they are dealing with whether it is a catch phrase or a saying ... they pick it up) and his sex when you do have sex. He will DEFINITELY do something different or out of the norm and it will be a continual change. Whether your guy is usually gentle and he all of a sudden becomes a bit rough or vice versa. You can tell and I do agree with the gut instinct. If you think and feel it ... go with it. Good luck. I choose single myself. Lol.
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